Tamara Willems

time of your life…

For the last several days I’ve been thinking about
my husband’s Aunt Tina
and the feeling one often has of
the wish
for more time

Aunt Tina was the dearest lady, and
most gladly took me in her loving embrace
much before my husband and I were even married
she had the kindest eyes, which of course
mirrored her very loving heart
and when she smiled at you,
you just knew, almost instantly
without a doubt
that you were

she was married to Uncle Ed, whom I adored
a quiet man, always with a tune to whistle
accompanied by  the jingle of coins
in his pocket
and a more perfect pair, one could not invent
gentle, kind, loving

last week as happened
we were shocked and saddened to hear of the loss
of my husband’s cousin Murray
second son of Tina and Ed
who was such a lovely kind man, gentle in nature
with just the most wonderful sense of humour
and the robust jubilant laughter that accompanied it
filled everyone around him with

my first thoughts were to his dear wife
a beautiful,
beautifully kind soul
whose heart equally embraced me, the first time we met
and this loss,
no way to imagine one without the other

a lovely daughter, and sons

on Saturday morning we gathered
in the strength
of a beautiful family
that have not so much lost
a husband, a father, grandfather, brother, uncle, cousin,

but instead, have expanded in his passing

joyously, even through tears
the love, the gentle kind-heartedness, the
courage, the grace
of a lovely, lovely man who, really
was not lost to anyone there
as his presence more than filled the room
as well as each aching heart
held in loving kindness

and really, I cannot think of a better way
to celebrate a life
full, vibrant, essential
and brimming with love
and we were honoured to feel
a part of it

has me thinking of the very sweetness in Aunt Tina’s smile
and today wishing
I’d had just a little more time
to tell her, how very wonderful her family
her sons, her daughter’s-in-law, her grandchildren,
great grandchildren

have turned out to be

a true testament to their faith
a true legacy
to their love

so today,
(even though she’s been gone 16 years)
I make the time
to tell her

just that.

And to you, make the time
be loving, be kind
be grateful

Embrace life

“I think,” Tehanu said in her soft, strange voice, “that when I die, I can breathe back the breath that made me live. I can give back to the world all that I didn’t do. All that I might have been and couldn’t be. All the choices I didn’t make. All the things I lost and spent and wasted. I can give them back to the world. To the lives that haven’t been lived yet. That will be my gift back to the world that gave me the life I did live, the love I loved, the breath I breathed.”
~ Ursula K. Le Guin

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