{"id":4623,"date":"2023-05-21T18:27:57","date_gmt":"2023-05-21T22:27:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/?p=4623"},"modified":"2023-05-21T18:28:01","modified_gmt":"2023-05-21T22:28:01","slug":"and-words-that-matter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/?p=4623","title":{"rendered":"and words that matter&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>My current reading and<br>might<br>read next<br>pile<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>where I have not spent nearly enough time<br>with the first book, <em>Surrender<\/em><br>and it really is so very good<br>but also, where I am always looking forward<br>to the<br>next<br>one<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>and ways in which the two of these<br>first two in particular<br>might just happen to be<br>quite similar<br><br>wondering today, when it is exactly<br>that we<br>can stop apologizing for<br>the way we are<br><br>especially when it is<br>that we are quite accustomed to<br>the way we are<br>and for the most part, ok with it<br>when we have made ourselves a quite sensible<br>pact<br>(in order to quell persistent anxiety)<br>to not apologize<br>for being just<br>so<br><br>except I suppose when certain<br>expectations or social<br>\u2018norms\u2019 arise<br>the kinds of pressures we put on ourselves<br>or<br>each other, as it were<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>myself, I am never one for &#8216;has to be\u2019s&#8217;<br>must be done in such a way<br>rather enthusiastically balk<br>at anything containing the word<br>should<br>always been quite fond of the phrase<br>Says Who ?<br><br>yet still periodically, as is I suppose with<br>human nature<br>that little tiny stirring up<br>on the inside<br>the annoying pesky mosquito<br>that starts one to<br>worry,<br>just\u2026 \u00a0a bit<br><br>where foolishly we then will<br>sort of involuntarily<br>choose \u00a0<br>to fight against<br>ourselves <br>knowing full well that this<br>will serve us<br>no good purpose, at all<br><br>possibly what I\u2019m just trying to say here<br>is<br>if you were to see someone<br>who may look like<br>they<br>could really use a hug<br>and being that you, yourself wouldn\u2019t mind at all<br>a soggy shoulder or chest even (should you happen to be quite tall)<br><br>and that someone might just per chance,<br>happen to<br>look <br>exactly like<br><br>me<br><br>(calm cool on the outside, cute as a button \ud83d\ude09 &#8211;<br>though a complete disheveled mess on the inside,<br>and is her face  broken out!? &#8211; <br>though she is far from being a teenager!!)<br><br>I can just tell you,<br>that I<br>would be ever so grateful<br><br>for your<br>kindness \u2665<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My current reading andmightread nextpile where I have not spent nearly enough timewith the first book, Surrenderand it really is so very goodbut also, where I am always looking forwardto thenextone and ways in which the two of thesefirst two&hellip; <br \/><a class=\"read-more-button\" href=\"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/?p=4623\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4624,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[995,996,994,446,993,74,85],"class_list":["post-4623","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-breatheyourwaythrough","tag-freetobeme","tag-happyrecluse","tag-inthiswritersgarden","tag-socialanxiety","tag-toyouthisday","tag-writelife"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4623","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4623"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4623\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4631,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4623\/revisions\/4631"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4624"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4623"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4623"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamara.tedzplace.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4623"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}