Tamara Willems

maybe it’s just me …

“Now is the winter of our discontent” …   these are the words stomping their noisy boots through my head today.  Across and back, and clamouring in my ears.
And I am in want of a stillness and quiet.

I don’t even know where they might have wandered in from?
‘Tis the approaching season of social engagement creeping in, I am sure.  Starting to agitate me a little.
Possibly I am getting worse with age,  but really I like to believe I am getting better.

This is me, as always,  living with social anxiety or as I like to call it my beautifully strong introverted nature.   I am not very keen on Christmas parties as such.  While I know people look forward to them and enjoy them immensely,  for me they are awkward and uncomfortable and I would just always
rather
be
home.

This is not however, an easy message to convey.  It is not a reflection of the people I would be sharing an evening with and it is certainly not my intention to offend.  It’s just for me, I would so rather be somewhere else.

I don’t suffer from the fear of missing out.  I engage in things when I think I can,  when I need to push myself to go out, I do try.  But there are other times, I feel quite confident in my decisions, that this just isn’t for me, and I know when I can feel it …
my peace.

There are so many ‘should’s’ in life, and I often wonder who sets the rules, and are they for me?

I am very fortunate I know, to be loved by someone wonderfully patient and kind, who takes me as I am. (I guess,  well – because he has to!)   And I am very blessed to have some equally wonderful close friends who I believe share an understanding of my nature, and fully accept it as part of what makes me  –  me.  I don’t socialize a lot, but I do try to keep in touch (perhaps in small ways)  and I am genuinely grateful for the blessings that I have, and that I receive.

Probably my way of stepping out into the world Is here, in this way..  as I write.  This is how I am able to quiet those stomping boots,  noisily tramping their way through my head, as well as the words that follow them,
on repeat.
I sort through, I air out ..  and then
I
breathe…
and this is me.

This is not “now the winter of MY discontent”   –  No,  this is instead
me
most
perfectly
content ♥

“I chose the light amidst the lurking darkness. I chose calmness and stillness among a crowd bathing in chaos. I chose happiness over screaming negativity around and I chose to be ME over the temptation of being like somebody else.” 
~ Elizabeth E. Castillo

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